Saturday, January 14, 2017

A Writer's Life in Six Haikus

Friday, November 11, 2016

Let it Flow!

I have been thinking for the past few months about why I have been unable to make any progress with part II of my book ‘Cool but Confused” (which I intend to re-launch under new title when it catches my fancy again). Problem-solving is fun (my own problems; not those of others). I mull over issue for months, even years, and at times it seems that the trail has gone cold. The solutions often come just as other people have forgotten the issue; circumstances have changed, and I have developed a new perspective over the long period of time that has passed. Also, you become detached with things after long period of time and that makes it easy to swiftly implement solutions that seemed brutal before.

So, here’s what came up after the little thinking exercise.

The characters in my previous book are based on friends who have been by my side since the last 20 years. The stories in it were based on the experiences they shared with me at various points during those long years of bonding. Even though it was written in just a year, I might have been unconsciously researching for a long time for that book.

Two years on, many interesting things have happened, but I need time to process information, dilute the facts and fuse multiple experiences so their origins become untraceable. That can only happen with passage of time.

I never take notes because of this. I don’t like to cling to memories and people, and re-reading old diaries just makes you realise how stupid you were in the past. You do not need a diary to remember forever the memories that impact you deeply. The colours of pain and joy mix over the years and the story unfolds in layers as you write. I only write a story about an experience if it stays with me for a long time. If it is trivial, I am not going to waste my time and that of the reader by noting it down and writing about it –and therein lies the impediment in the path of Project X (tentative name for my next book).

I have had many experiences but very few of them are worth remembering. It is not writer’s block. It is a drawback of my creative process and I must live with it. I am also working on improving that process. I spent a lot of time overthinking whether or not to feature my imaginary friends in my book, and ultimately decided I should leave it to the readers to decide (please see the poll). I will continue to spend a long time over ideas and write slowly but consistently; only, I will mull over more meaningful ideas and stop pushing myself to write.

I am letting it flow when it wishes to, and yes, it is flowing!

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Of Roots and Wings

People migrate from place to place in search of good life. They seek better employment opportunities, more opulent houses and what not, and thus go from Goa to Delhi to Washington.

In my opinion, if you want a good life, stay in one place. Take roots. That gives you a chance to cultivate people. Building networks and staying with them is perhaps more important than just running where the money takes you. Ten years down the line, you suddenly discover that your bench-mate in school has now become a police inspector; that girl who always lended you notes has become a teacher, and the conductor of that bus you take to office every day is none other than that back-bencher who pretended to be the cool dude of the class.

Moving places prevents you from strengthening these networks. One might say Whatsapp and social media help maintain friendships. True, but they do not strengthen them. Nothing equals the joy of pouring out your mind after the day’s work to that old friend who has been by your side for ten years. And the satisfaction of actually sharing the load of repairing the house with your father , and watching the pride and relief in his eyes matters a lot more than sending him lots of money and an “I am there for you” message on Whatsapp from some faraway metro city.

Sharing our joy and sorrow gives us strength, and when we have deep connections and understanding built over long years, these networks help share and solve our problems quicker, and give us a happier life in the long run. Also, when you stay at one place, you do not have to waste time learning about the culture and society of the place. There are no shocks. You can concentrate on things that really matter. Absence of culture shocks helps save tremendous mental and physical strength, and old and strong networks, as I said before help one rejuvenate quickly after setbacks.

Staying in one place may not get you the fast life or the über life, but it gives you a sound life that develops and blossoms at a slow and steady pace, like a beautiful flowering plant.

Sunday, July 24, 2016

Letter to My Future Self

Hello, New Me, this is Old Me (even though technically you are the older person.)

You are definitely wiser and more experienced than I am. You may wonder why I am writing to you from my time. I will put it this way: We have these epiphanies sometimes and we discover what being truly happy is, but they last for a short time before being forgotten and lost in our daily struggles. This letter is an attempt to preserve one such epiphany.

I believe you are currently surrounded by more people than I was but connect with very few of them. I started that phase of your life. I understood that material stuff brings limited happiness and people bring a little more happiness, but in reality, our happiness lies with us. Today, you will find people pressuring you into do things you do not wish. In that case, I remind you, strive for solitude and reflection.  That is what brought you the success you enjoy at the moment.

If you are at the moment feeling depressed and indifferent to pretty much everything around you, know that I, your Past Self had successfully recovered from similar feelings.  Don’t be dead from inside. If you are, remember the alternative life I envisioned under the Eternal Optimist. If you are living that life right now, congratulations; if not, reignite that dream. Stop looking for people to confide in and empty your mind to of worries. Start looking for people to build an empire.

I hope you do not struggle to survive the way I did. If you do, then reduce your spending right now. You need nothing more than three meals of dal-rice a day, enough cloths for a week or two, and a roof over your head. Dispose of all that is unwanted.

Last but not the least, you have become a cold and ruthless person fighting wars that I planned, and paying for the mistakes that I made. Do not let my mistakes make you feel guilty. They made you stronger. Stand up. You are a new person and you must fight new battles. But even as you go on to add to what I built, you must also add, , meaning and practice to the values that I inculcated.

Less is more

Consistency above hard work

Caution before celebration.

Yours Truly
The 2016 Me.

Sunday, July 10, 2016

The Grass is Always Greener on Our Side

I have found a flaw in our lives and I intend to mend it. 
People are glorifying rat-race; prioritising work over sleep and health.  “I am so busy, I don’t have time even for myself” is something people say with pride. This is a cool trend.

I intend to reverse that trend.

It is cool to have control over your own time; to be happy with less rather than chasing money at the cost of health. The West is witnessing such a trend where young professionals are rejecting hectic work schedules and opting for less-paying options that offer a slower and more peaceful life. This is called ‘downshifting’.  This is the trend I seek to drive forward. 

To that end, I have tried to write stories about people caught in the rat-race, only to find them sprawling with clichés. I found myself falling prey to anger, frustration, pushing myself harder to research Slowness and Minimalism, reading books late into night, exhausting myself thinking hard till it was almost sunrise; doing the very things I stand for avoiding. My eyes opened when during one of my late night readings I stumbled upon a quote which I then simplified for my understanding:

“One big thing is a series of small things brought together.”

I have to start small; at my own pace, connecting the dots as I grow older.

People are those dots. If you read this and agree with it, you are one of those dots. 

There are many other things I wish to put across through my writing but they will have to wait for more of such small, abruptly ending posts. I will stop here because I feel like I have made my point. 

Even as we strive to grow,
We are happy and content
With what we have
At the moment.
Opportunities come and go.
Some we choose, others we let go.
No regrets, no hurry, no greed.
The grass is always greener on our side.

Thursday, May 12, 2016

Rules of Sharing

Had a discussion about the proper use of social media in office yesterday.  We talk a lot about the increasing penetration of social media but with that we also need to develop the right mindset to use these media. When you are sharing something on social, it is akin to broadcasting your views on national television. In case of something like Twitter or blog, you are broadcasting to global audience. With that in mind, and drawing upon my thoughts during the discussion, I listed some basic guidelines for sharing information on social .

I call them the Rules of Sharing.

  1. Think twice before you post anything.  The world is watching.
  2. You won’t gain much by following your own friends. Follow people from different countries and cultures. Broaden your horizons. 
  3. Curate relevant information by scanning the right hashtags. Getting information is the easy part. Curating is more important. 
  4. Hashtags are a must with every status. They get you visibility. 
  5. People who troll your profile see what pages you have liked. Refrain from liking stupid pages. 
  6. Your tweets and statuses are being studied by business intelligence softwares to better your shopping/followee recommendations. If you make intelligent posts relating to your areas of interest, you might benefit from this system. 
  7. Do not always post only serious content. Include your own comments on daily life/your views about things and trivia. Show your human side to your followers. 
  8. Remember again that you are being watched. So, carefully craft your image on social media with consistent tweets about specific topics. Once you establish your image, your followers grow, and so does your clout. 
  9. Always, always live-tweet interesting lectures and seminars. Your followers love it. Also, it makes seminars less boring and the tweets later serve as notes. 
  10. Retweeting/ sharing famous quotes is cliché. Try sharing original thoughts instead. 

Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Shifting of Sands

I am very uncomfortable with goodbyes.  They bring abrupt change in life. They create memories that haunt you when you are alone. I too let go of people, but I call it the “shifting of sands” because I do it slowly like shifting sand dunes in the desert.  The term is usually used in a slightly different context but I have my own definitions of things so bear with me here.

Change should come but no one should notice it coming. This is true of politics as well as individual lives. Politics is especially dear to me because it is a long game of patience. Slowness is a political value, a principle that seeps into your individual self as you dive deeper into this field. The Chinese for example took a decade and slowly built their String of Pearls around India.  The Americans slowly and subtly influence the whole world with their soft-power.

The Chinese diplomacy I feel is an inspiration for calm and controlled individual life. The Western countries for instance, assert their military power and try to take responsibility for maintaining global peace.  China has the world’s largest army but you never hear of a significant Chinese military deployment for global peace. That country did not even join the anti-ISIS coalition. It seems as if China is quietly waiting till the reigning powers wear themselves down trying to maintain the current world order, from which the dragon itself benefits the most.

Exactly this strategy can be used in individual life. Assertive people will compete for and gain leadership positions in a firm. You simply wait. Observe and learn from their mistakes.  That position is not going anywhere. You will get there at your own pace.  Chinese soldiers for instance never fought as part of the coalition in Afghanistan, but they do guard the China-operated infrastructure in that country.

China calls Pakistan it’s all-weather friend, but if you see the global power-shifts, the dragon has slowly let-go of Pakistan, shifting its focus on troubles in the East China Sea and the String of Pearls strategy. Pakistan knows that it has been demoted, but can’t say anything about it because China has never actually recognised the change.  The sands of global politics have slowly shifted.
Similar path one takes when one changes friends. Sands must shift slowly. That way there are no ‘goodbye movements’; no sad memories; only a slow, cold, pragmatic realignment of relations.  To give it all a poetic twist:

Be polite; speak softly
For none of them should know
Like  shifting sands, with cold ends
They’re all being let go.